Glued Together Moments

lesbiangoggleson

At some point we have to ask ourselves if it’s worth it to allow people in our communities that want to eat their cake and have it too. People who are only part of our struggles in name, while in practice (and in benefits) they’re are part of the heteronormative structure.

We have to accept that more often than not these people derail intra-community conversations, take focus away from people who can’t escape homophobia by happily dating the “right” sex, and disrespect gay/Lesbian people’s boundaries, people who have nowhere else to go in society by nature of their orientation. They act as heteronormativity’s double agents in a lot of cases. Constantly trying to undermine homosexuality with their political ~activism and even calling homosexuality a privileged orientation.

Do we really need their numbers? What do they offer vs what do they take away? The vast majority of them are actively supporting and celebrating a system that privileges other-sex relationships and attractions and an ever increasing minority of them thinks that spreading homophobia is progressive political activism. Have we shot ourselves in the foot in the name of unity and because we don’t want the image of angry homos?

biphobicshiton

biphobic shit on tumblr.com includes accusing bisexual people of celebrating and privileging and perpetuating heteronormativity and accusing us of taking focus away from *real* MOGAI people.

biphobic shit on tumblr.com includes someone asking, presumably with a straight face, whether or not bisexual people should be allowed in LGBT/MOGAI spaces.

biphobic shit on tumblr.com includes people writing posts that you would come up with if you were going to write a caricature of what you think a biphobic LG person might say.

this one’s a real doozy, folks, and ngl I’m actually a little physically ill from reading it.

opalborn

I particularly love “happily dating the ‘right’ sex” because all bisexual people are automatically attracted to the “right” sex and because all bisexual people are attracted to and capable of happily dating every single member of every sex/gender to which they are attracted.

What is about bisexuality in particular that makes people forget that “capable of being attracted to a gender” does not mean “attracted to every member of that gender without exception”? Gay and lesbian people point out frequently that this is a stupid thing to think — “who cares if there are gay men in a locker room, just because they’re gay doesn’t mean they’re attracted to you!” So why are they incapable of applying that exact same logic to a bisexual person?

I also enjoy how this post pretty blatantly states that bisexual people, no matter their relationship status or dating history or literally anything else, purely by virtue of being bisexual, are not MOGAI enough. While insisting that there’s no reason for bisexuals to consider themselves oppressed or mistreated. Like.

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soverylittlehoneybee

I also love implied in this post “straight passing privilage” which apparently only applies to bisexual people in the closet, not in any way to gays or lesbians or asexuals who hide their orientation as well. Also implying that bisexual people don’t need safe spaces or should look for them out of the LGBT community AND calling us agents of heteronormativity. Thank you very much. :/